There are some painstaking processes we have to go through as part of human development. Change, growth and maturity are critical facets of these processes. As difficult as they may seem they are a fundamental part of us which we need to embrace. Mostly we resist change, growth and maturity because we become accustomed to certain things, values and principles and we become comfortable with them. Sometimes, the place we become accustomed to is not the place we belong. We are filled with so much anxiety and fear of what could be on the other side, we are afraid to break through those walls and see the beauty beyond. The different phases of our lives will require mental paradigm shifts and a renewal of several other attributes. As individuals, we need to evolve to birth who we are supposed to become. Whom we are meant to be will not happen if we decide to stay in our comfort zones. These precepts are a birthing process; long and painful yet a beautiful outcome. As French – American novelist Anaïs Nin put it : ‘ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”. When we oppose our growth through our actions and inactions, we tend to suffer dire consequences. We become imprisoned as a result of our own mindset. Like we shed off old skin, we need to psyche our minds to shed off some mentalities and dispositions to enable our rebirth. It’s amazing how dead cells are replaced by regenerated cells, wounds heal and scars fade, dead trees are replaced with new sprouts, trees shed off leaves in certain seasons but flourish in its greenery during other seasons and how caterpillars are metamorphed into butterflies. It’s amazing how we have grown from our childhood to become adults. In retrospect, it feels like only yesterday but it’s been several years. When we refuse to change and embrace growth, the days do not wait for us. They slip by faster than we can imagine and then weeks turn into months and subsequently into years.
Maya Angelou put it beautifully ” We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. Simply put, we love to see the beauty that comes with growth but tend to shy away from the very things that will contribute to our growth and success. We tend to revel in our defined boundaries, zones and perceptions and we loose out on so many things.
Comfort zones are good but why would you decide to stay on the harbour when you can discover so much beauty and endless possibilities when you set sail?
Change, growth and success will only come if we make a resolve to forgo our comforts and luxuries.
Nana Akua Frimpomaa Amofa (c) 2018